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THOSE DAYS!!


I saw this today, it got me thinking about the stressful events and The quote below brought a huge lump to my throat this morning, it tugged at a heart made more tender by grief and returned me to a past that was bleak and full of fear. Between the lines of this passage, I found old and broken parts of myself that are still fragile and mending.

Experiencing frustrations and disappointment is a normal part of life. But, When the feelings become too overwhelming, they can contribute to resentment. When this happens, trust and love in relationships are broken and sometimes never repaired. Sometimes resentment leads to an inability to stop thinking about the event that caused intense emotion. Recurring negative thoughts may take over and linger for long periods of time — sometimes even years. Thinking about those stressful events leads to regret and remorse with self-blame and wishing that I had acted differently. 

I  Engaged with people or places that remind me of past mistreatment that made me feel invisible or inadequate. When this happened, old feelings of anger and bitterness began to reappear and grow stronger. 

But this time I chose the path of healing that involves forgiveness and finding a way to make peace with what happened to move on.

Healing is so hard and so messy, I remember being in the deep, struggling against a fierce tide and gasping for air at every turn. I know too that many still reside in those turbulent waters, where land is in sight but feels so painfully distant and if that’s you, please be reassured that your path forward is always being illuminated by universal forces of love. Keep swimming and be gentle with yourself when you can do little more than tread water. I promise that even when it feels like you’re being blown off course and the seas are raging there is always hope and better times ahead, that when you least expect it the tide will turn and you will undoubtedly cross paths with the kindly sailors moving through the same waters to lend you a helping hand.
  
No one gets through life without suffering. At some point, we are all thrown against the rocks and sucked in by unexpected whirlpools, but so too are we all born with the strength and resilience required to see us safely through the storm. I know it’s hard and can sometimes feel impossible and lonely, but you are not the first to sail these rough seas and you won’t be the last. Those on dry land continue to man the watchtowers that shine a light on your hardships. There are many of us who have crossed vast oceans and faired the same turbulent waters, you are not alone, you were never alone. We are all connected in consciousness, you are supported by the many who traversed this path before you and the plenty who follow in your wake.


Don’t give up. Hold your head high above the water and breathe deep, give yourself a pat on the back for making it this far and remember that a brilliant sailor was never made by a smooth sea. You are going to get through this, you ARE getting through this. On the other side of your discomfort is peace and a profound joy that I didn’t believe possible - I know you don’t believe it right now either, which is why I’m here to remind you. If I can do it, you can too. Keep going 🙌🏻💖











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