SELF-CARE ALL YOU NEED TO HEAR!

  Time is our most valuable commodity. we get the same number of hours in a day and as an adult, we get to choose how to spend it. I could pontificate on the validity of time as an actual concept (is it real?), but for the sake of this particular conversation I'm going to park the debate to another time, no pun intended. The most common excuse and I’m going to be upfront and remind you it’s always an excuse - for not taking care of ourselves is “I don’t have time”. If we are to be brutally honest with ourselves, we all waste tons of time doing stuff that is neither needed nor productive. of course, there are exceptions, such as when one works 18 hours shifts with no let-ups - but that isn't the norm. Plenty of us has regular work hours and a balanced number of external obligations with home and family.    When we avoid self-care we avoid ourselves and such a disposition is always rooted in self-loathing. When we don’t love ourselves we avoid ourselves and we perpetua...

  " Beautifully Flawed means   no matter the flaw or the difference that you're still beautiful; that you're still beautiful and made in God's image. ” I used to feel like if I wasn’t maintaining 24/7 peace and joy then I was failing. I realize now that such expectations are a contradiction to the energy of acceptance and surrender. As a human being, I learn when I am doing and when I am doing it is natural, human, and necessary to make mistakes, hit roadblocks, meet conflict, and sometimes feel rotten. No one gets out alive without any of the above, that is life. The ups and downs of living are what make life beautiful. The goal is not 24/7 peace, the goal is to learn how to ride the ups and downs with grace and dignity, how to return to peace when the waves hit hard, and to lovingly accept and forgive ourselves and others as we all go about our learning. This is the path we all have in common - Flawed humans, doing our best to learn how to be better. We all learn dif...

    ONE OF THE MAJOR CAUSES OF ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION IS THE INTRUSIVE AND UNWANTED THOUGHTS.  Anxiety and worrying is a fear of the future. Such fear causes us to begin trying to control the outcome of certain events, relationships, or circumstances - we tell ourselves that for everything to be ok we must do/communicate/control XYZ so that we can be safe and protect ourselves from the possibility of a dire outcome.           Fear also inhibits us from living fully, we restrain ourselves too from taking certain actions or decisions because we have already decided the outcome ‘might’ be bad. This is the same energy that keeps us from being our authentic selves.  Be honest with yourself... how many times have you withheld your truth for fear of the repercussions? How many times have you not leaped faith because you didn’t believe you could succeed? How many times have you wrecked a great opportunity because your fear overwhelmed you?...