SELF-CARE ALL YOU NEED TO HEAR!

  Time is our most valuable commodity. we get the same number of hours in a day and as an adult, we get to choose how to spend it. I could pontificate on the validity of time as an actual concept (is it real?), but for the sake of this particular conversation I'm going to park the debate to another time, no pun intended. The most common excuse and I’m going to be upfront and remind you it’s always an excuse - for not taking care of ourselves is “I don’t have time”. If we are to be brutally honest with ourselves, we all waste tons of time doing stuff that is neither needed nor productive. of course, there are exceptions, such as when one works 18 hours shifts with no let-ups - but that isn't the norm. Plenty of us has regular work hours and a balanced number of external obligations with home and family.    When we avoid self-care we avoid ourselves and such a disposition is always rooted in self-loathing. When we don’t love ourselves we avoid ourselves and we perpetua...

  " Beautifully Flawed means   no matter the flaw or the difference that you're still beautiful; that you're still beautiful and made in God's image. ” I used to feel like if I wasn’t maintaining 24/7 peace and joy then I was failing. I realize now that such expectations are a contradiction to the energy of acceptance and surrender. As a human being, I learn when I am doing and when I am doing it is natural, human, and necessary to make mistakes, hit roadblocks, meet conflict, and sometimes feel rotten. No one gets out alive without any of the above, that is life. The ups and downs of living are what make life beautiful. The goal is not 24/7 peace, the goal is to learn how to ride the ups and downs with grace and dignity, how to return to peace when the waves hit hard, and to lovingly accept and forgive ourselves and others as we all go about our learning. This is the path we all have in common - Flawed humans, doing our best to learn how to be better. We all learn dif...

    ONE OF THE MAJOR CAUSES OF ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION IS THE INTRUSIVE AND UNWANTED THOUGHTS.  Anxiety and worrying is a fear of the future. Such fear causes us to begin trying to control the outcome of certain events, relationships, or circumstances - we tell ourselves that for everything to be ok we must do/communicate/control XYZ so that we can be safe and protect ourselves from the possibility of a dire outcome.           Fear also inhibits us from living fully, we restrain ourselves too from taking certain actions or decisions because we have already decided the outcome ‘might’ be bad. This is the same energy that keeps us from being our authentic selves.  Be honest with yourself... how many times have you withheld your truth for fear of the repercussions? How many times have you not leaped faith because you didn’t believe you could succeed? How many times have you wrecked a great opportunity because your fear overwhelmed you?...

THE DIVINE BLESSINGS The “ divine blessing ” does it really exist…. yes, it really does exist you just have to find the connection between you and the supreme god/lord / Bhavana. You just have to believe in the supreme Bhavana and in yourself too. You have to be the master of your karma and it will follow you. When you will start feeling connected to the supreme personality wonder will happen in your life and within you. It only takes one belief and the blessing will find you. Like everyone has their own personality, appearance the blessing also differs. One person may have the connection but tend to lose his/her blessing in the material things. One doesn’t have the connection but knows how to attain it. I was one of those kids who knew about the connection and just a few believe and voila! The blessing is coming one by one… What is a blessing? It may be a person that the supreme lord sends in your life to change your miserable life into a marvelous one or it may be you your...

    To, the special one “You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ”   Love. It is one of the most complicated and divine things globally, and the essence of it is spiritual love. Most people claim that they have experienced true love, even though they seldom know the real definition of it.  . They use the concept of love to justify actions like stalking, obsessing, intimidating… But, this is not loving. This is a “kind of love” that is delusional and far removed from the real thing.  .  In my point of view: It is uplifting, inspiring, and unique! . It’s when you love each other despite your quirks and flaws when you embrace each other’s imperfections instead of judging when you give each other some space for personal growth.  . It’s when you respect each other despite differences when you help each other become the best version of yourself, and when you love each other unconditi...

I saw this today, it got me thinking about the stressful events and The quote below brought a huge lump to my throat this morning, it tugged at a heart made more tender by grief and returned me to a past that was bleak and full of fear. Between the lines of this passage, I found old and broken parts of myself that are still fragile and mending. Experiencing frustrations and disappointment is a normal part of life. But, When the feelings become too overwhelming, they can contribute to resentment.  When this happens, trust and love in relationships are broken and sometimes never repaired. Sometimes resentment leads to an inability to stop thinking about the event that caused intense emotion. Recurring negative thoughts may take over and linger for long periods of time — sometimes even years. Thinking about those stressful events leads to regret and remorse with self-blame and wishing that I had acted differently.  I  Engaged with people or places that remind me of...

                                            GUILT - TRIPS As a lifelong people-pleaser, learning how to cope with guilt has been one of the hardest mountains to climb. Even though I have learned to say no, I still suffer bouts of guilt in doing so.  If we were raised in an environment where we were taught to meet people’s needs above our own we have literally been conditioned by shame. Guilt-tripping is not just a tool employed by narcissists. It is commonly associated with those suffering from anxious attachment too.  There is not a person alive who hasn’t been on the receiving end of “I can’t cope with life when you do/don’t do XYZ to/for me” or worse still “I am suicidal/sick/depressed, why are you being so mean to me?”. There are several ways that people play on our conscience to get what they want. A healthy person recognizes such coercive behaviors and steps away...